Finding true love using Yuusk (interview)

 

Who doesn’t want to find a life partner they can travel the globe with? Heck, I’ll be the first to admit that’s my #1 goal in life. I’d heard of Yuusk before, though most press around it labels it as a site for sugar daddies to meet beautiful women and exchange trips to exotic destinations for you-know-what.

Apparently that’s not the case, at least not for one (at the time) lonely electrician, Trevor, who was working at an oil field in Alberta, Canada. He met his now-wife, July, a Colombian woman who dreamed of finding the perfect guy to share global adventures with, on the site. They’ve been traveling together for over two years now, and have racked up seven trips and counting.

I caught up with Trevor and July to learn more about their atypical courtship, finding true love online and the rewards of exploring the world with the one you love.

1. WHAT PROMPTED YOU TO SIGN UP FOR YUUSK.COM, AND WHAT WERE YOUR FIRST IMPRESSIONS?

Trevor: When I decided to sign up for Yuusk I was working a camp job in northern Alberta, where I would work two weeks on and one week off. I wanted to start traveling and to find someone to do it with. So I Googled “traveling with someone” and Yuusk came up. I decided to give it a shot.

My initial impressions were that it was an interesting concept and that there are lots of women from all over the world to chat with that wanted to travel. It was just a matter of finding someone that shared similar views and had the same relationship goals as I did. I was looking for something more long term than just a one time travel fling.

July: Living in Colombia all my life I always was intrigued by other countries. I love Europe and hope to visit there one day. I had just gotten out of a relationship with a guy I met from England, who was living in Colombia at the time, a few months prior to joining Yuusk. After things ended with him I wanted to continue learning English and maybe meet someone new from an English-speaking country. So I found Yuusk and I was fascinated by the concept of traveling with someone.

2. YOU’RE NOW MARRIED TO A WOMAN, JULY, YOU MET ON THE DATING AND TRAVEL WEBSITE. WHERE WAS YOUR FIRST TRIP TO, AND WHAT WAS IT LIKE PLANNING A GETAWAY WITH SOMEONE YOU DIDN’T REALLY KNOW?

Trevor: Well to start, the first time I went on Yuusk I met someone from the USA and we started chatting through Facebook and eventually planned a trip to Vegas together. That was my first real online dating experience and, all in all, the trip went fairly well; but we were just too different from one another to make a relationship work.

Overall, I was happy with the experience, and the opportunity to meet someone for a trip.I signed back up for Yuusk and within a couple of weeks I started talking with July.

July and I talked and Skyped for about four months before our first trip. July is from Colombia and myself Canada, so the distance and available places to travel was what made it take a little longer to plan a trip. For our first trip we went to Panama, neither of us had ever been before and we stayed at a resort for five nights. I remember waiting for her at the airport, because my flight got in before hers, and then seeing her for the first time wearing a black skirt and yellow shirt — which are my favorite colors. I knew she was a special girl and we had a great time together. I couldn’t wait for the next time we could travel and see each other again.

3. THERE IS AN IDEA THAT YUUSK.COM IS A WEBSITE FOR SUGAR DADDIES AND ATTRACTIVE WOMEN LOOKING FOR FREEBIES. WHAT ARE YOUR FEELINGS ON THIS?

That impression may come from a minority of people using Yuusk inappropriately who then give the website as a whole a bad reputation. My experience with the site has obviously been largely positive. As with other dating sites, there are some people who use the site for the wrong reasons. It is usually really easy to see through the members who do not have the right motivations, and the site makes it easy to report these people for inappropriate behavior.

4. HOW DID YOU (OR SHE) PROPOSE?

We both started talking about marriage around our second trip to Mexico and discussing the future of our relationship. Because she still lived in Colombia and myself in Canada we only saw each other about every three to five months when we could meet in a destination. On our third trip to Mexico, and our fifth trip overall, I decided to propose to July. It was just the two of us walking on the beach late at night in Cancun, when I gave her a ring and asked her to marry me.

She said yes and here we are today almost a year later. We just got married on December 1, 2018.

5. WHERE WAS THE WEDDING, AND WHAT WAS IT LIKE?

Originally we thought about a simple wedding in her home town of Ibaque, Colombia; but after going there and realizing the difficulties of a Canadian marrying a Colombian in Colombia, we decided to do a destination wedding with friends and family in Mexico.

This would be our fourth time going to Mexico, so we knew the area fairly well and enjoy it. We got married on December 1, 2018 at the Blue Bay Grand Esmeralda in Playa Del Carmen. We had 21 friends and family come down for the week — it was amazing. Everyone had a great time and the wedding went perfect.

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6. HAVE YOU AND JULY CONTINUED TO TRAVEL? IF SO, WHAT HAVE BEEN SOME OF YOUR MOST MEMORABLE EXPERIENCES TOGETHER ON THE ROAD?

We have had many great experiences traveling together. Peru was a great experience because we traveled throughout the country to Machu Picchu and Huacachina. We also met up with a friend of mine and his girlfriend in Peru and spent Christmas and New Year’s together with them. Most of our trips, we find an apartment to rent — instead of a resort — and we spend lots of time in the main city and getting to know the culture of the country.

7. FOR THOSE HOPING TO TURN A POTENTIAL TRAVEL FLING INTO SOMETHING MORE, DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE?

I guess I would have to say that if you’re serious about a relationship, you need to find someone that shares the same views of traveling and not being tied down to one place. You also have to be willing to make a long distance relationship work because most people you meet on Yuusk aren’t going to live in the same city, or even country as you.

When July and I aren’t traveling together, we talk everyday on Facebook and Skype. It can be hard at times, but the plan for the future will be for her to eventually move to Canada.

8. WHAT DESTINATIONS HAVE BEEN YOUR FAVORITE/LEAST FAVORITE FOR ROMANTIC TRAVEL? WHY?

Peru was our favorite destination. It was the most most interesting and we had our most memorable romantic experiences. Visiting Machu Picchu was amazing and spending New Year’s camped out on a beach was quite the experience. We really got to know each other more on that trip, as it was just our second trip.

As far as least favorite, I’d say our first trip to Panama. Only because we stayed at a resort that wasn’t too busy and it was just a short trip of five nights. Even for just meeting someone for the first time, those five days went by extremely fast. I should mention, we did go parasailing in Panama and it was both our first times doing that. I’m a little scared of heights, but I wanted to impress July and it turned out to be so much fun and a great experience!

9. WHAT IS YOUR WILDEST STORY FROM YOU AND JULY’S TRAVELS?

I guess our wildest story would have to be getting married with family and friends that, for the most part, hadn’t met July yet. For her it was the first time meeting most of my friends. She had met my parents a year before in Cancun, but this was the first she had been around so many people that spoke only English. Everyone loved her right from the start and the whole week was just a giant celebration of our love.

10. FOR THOSE WHO THINK YOU NEED TO “SETTLE DOWN” IN THE TRADITIONAL MANNER TO MAKE A RELATIONSHIP WORK, WHAT WOULD YOU TELL THEM?

I would say to the people that are more about a “traditional relationship,” that’s fine and all of you can meet someone the way you want. With the way the world is now, technology and the Internet are such a large part of our everyday life, online dating seems natural. If you’re looking for a different and fascinating experience, Yuusk is perfect for an adventure. Who knows? You might find that special someone like July and I did.

Yuusk model? Yes!

Yep, as I already talked about it, I am an Yuusk.com model and I am very proud about it. Why? Because I work with great people who respect me and who make me feel appreciated.

I’ve traveled a lot since I work for this company and I visited the most beautiful places in this world. I am sure there are many others to come because this world is full with destination worth visiting and I am ready for it!

I made great friends, people who just wanted to find other people interested in traveling and we had lots of fun. Also I think I met my love in this ‘journey’ cuz now I find myself thinking about someone frequently and I guess this means I am in love :D.

In my opinion, and now I am trying to be how objective I can, Yuusk worked great for me and I heard it worked nice for others too. I like about this platform their wish of keeping high-class and very safe. Sometime their rules might seem annoying but in fact if you think closely this is exactly what gives you a good experience and keeps you away of strange things :D.

I really wanted to share this because maybe there are lots of girls out there who wanna join so here I am as a proof that everything should be fine. Just try it!

 

‘Till the next time,

xoxo,

Anastasia

Yuusk tips: what NOT to say in a first online dating message (part 2)

Text speak & poor grammar

It should go without saying that proper English has a leg up, at least in initial conversations. Anyone can write poorly or in shorthand, so it is far more impressive to use proper grammar to start with.

Why folks opt to use poor grammar in a first message escapes me- especially when real English rolls out in subsequent messages! Perhaps the English language really is devolving, and not even into lolspeak. Sigh.

While text speak and slang may be a bit of a turnoff, poor grammar is a total death sentence. Consider this example:

First that all great pictures. About Me. I’m 29 years old, nice man, I had been living in Miami since 2002. I love to enjoy what this nice city offert us, as a restaurants, bars, clubs, parks, beaches, I’m giants and lakers fun. I also like to do exercises as a run, play soccer in a legue every Sunday. And sometimes basketball. I also like to watch sports . Of course i have my job that i love it, and also i go to school. Tell me more about you.”

Note the odd capitalizations and lack thereof, errant spaces, and improper word usages. Alas, though this is a friendly enough message, its well-meaning sender has made himself look to careless to merit a response.

Messages that look like spam

Some examples:

Hi ,

May I know your name please?

I like your profile and would like to know more about you.

I am in ******* for doing my Summer Internship. Basically I am from ******.

Would you like to talk to me as a friend?

You can shoot your questions too.”

You might look at this and think that, slight grammar mistakes aside, this is a perfectly fine message. It would be, but for the “Hi ,” which (and this could be just me) is the first thing I notice in a vast majority of spam messages.

Starting any message with “Hi ,” or “Hi, Dear” or any sort of sentence that leaves a space before a comma or that first punctuation mark is a dead giveaway that you’re using a generic message. Even if your email is great, that initial beginning might be enough to sour the potential affections of your mark, as the subconscious thoughts of spam messages that that opening line left may leave an unpleasant feeling in her mind.

Some other small pieces of constructive criticism:

Summer Internships do not require capitalization – I only capitalize positions in formal writing or when I’m trying to impart an ironic tone of self importance

“You can shoot your questions too” makes no sense; perhaps this sentence would make more sense with an “over” or, better yet, it could be preceded by “I hope you shoot yourself.” which would certainly intrigue some readers and encourage a response.

Invitations to “Check out my profile”

Girls, I am told (I wouldn’t know), are not super big on guys who are only interested in themselves. Unless they are famous/incredibly rich/super gorgeous. In the online dating realm, it’s a safer bet to avoid anything that might hint at self-importance before proving one of the above factors. Even borderline cases are not worth the risk:

Hello. Your profile is full of personality. Message me back after reading my profile. :)”

In the example above, the Yuusk user does make a friendly acknowledgement of the person he is messaging… but it is generic at best. Giving another user homework (read my profile) is not a good way to start things off.

It might be better to allude to having things in common or to offer a compliment of the target’s taste in books, movies, or music. Such might encourage her to visit your profile out of a curious desire to see what movies/books/music you like.

Pointless salutations

Yuusk enables users to smile, wink, favorite, and visibly stalk each other, so if you don’t feel like writing a complete message, don’t write one at all. Sending over messages like:

Silly Sally!” or “Hey, I’m ******** :)” and “Interested?” or “Ya the government sucks!”

Is not enough. I, for example, already know that I’m a silly Sally, I can see your username already, I would have probably messaged or stalked a user if I were interested, and I don’t know quite how to respond to such brief commentary.

As my high school AP art teacher used to say dismissively when we presented her with our various anguish-ridden works of art: “Embellish!”

I suggest you do the same.

Good hunting!

I hope you have found these real-world demonstrations to be helpful in your online dating exploits. Online dating is awesome, and I imagine that there are lots of perfectly nice folks out there who, unlike myself, are looking for exactly the same thing as you. So good hunting, and may the odds ever be in your favor.

Modelling for Yuusk.com is a great experience

It’s been a few months since I am a top model for Yuusk company and I have recently discovered that this is how I want to spend most of my time, so I had to leave my other job at the magazine.

While photoshooting for them, I have the opportunity to meet a lot of  lovely people who invite me to go out for drinks or to watch a movie, or for dinners. They always give me more and more informations on how well www.yuusk.com is working. This is how I have also found out the answer to “How to find romance in France?”. There are so many people registered on Yuusk who ask these beautiful girls to go out and meet, and they all have a wonderful time.

This is something one of the guys registered on Yuusk.com told me. He is very pleased that through this exclusive website he found a very nice girl, even though she’s not from France. It seems that she is a german girl, very beautiful, very smart and they love traveling together now and photographing every city they visit. They have regular dinner at the end of the week in the same place, somewhere nice in Paris and he told me he would like to keep this as a habit.  Something he also said and made me laugh was:” Thank God for the English language”. Well, I agree with him because this is the language most of the people use on Yuusk.com so they can talk to each other.

I sometimes wonder how it would be for me to find someone to travel with and have a wonderful time and how this website would be so great for me but it would be unprofessional of me to do this as now I work for Yuusk. This is why I wanted to share this with you in case you might want to try something new, something exclusivist.

I have to leave you now, hurrying up to a dinner I’m going to tell you more about if it goes well.

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XOXO,

Anastasia.

How to find romance in France?

Since before landing I loved the view and I felt like something is going to happen, something will change drastically in my life. First day at work was quite weird as the things were a bit different than in London. The boss gave us some tips of how we could interract more with people in the industry and  how to develop ourselves better. Amongst these things he told us that it’s a big plus if we’re art lovers, so we could go to some art galleries where we can find so many interesting people. I always loved art, as I said it in a previous article, so that’s what I did. At that end of the week I’ve been  to an art exhibit held by some unknown artist. While I was there I met this guy that started telling me about some travel-dating website, named Yuusk.com. When he told me that name I remembered that it was the same website the models from Japan were talking about. I thought this must be something big if they were all talking about it.

So I went home that night and I’ve started googleing about it. This got me really interested so I went to www.yuusk.com and I registered myself, I uploaded some photos and wrote some informations about me. As soon as I updated my profile, one of  the Yuusk managers contacted me to ask me if I would like to come to their office In Switzerland for an interview as a model. At first I was a bit skeptical but after thinking a bit I said I should give this a try.

After 5 days I took my portofolio with me and all my confidence and flew to Switzerland for the interview. I have to say that I loved their idea of mixing traveling with dating, also the fact they are a strict company that only gathers the most exclusive, important people and beautiful girls from all over the world. Apparently they liked me as much as I liked them as they have chosen me as one of the Yuusk.com’s image models.

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I had some many things going on that time and with the new job at Yuusk I had to travel quite often to Switzerland, so I wanted to make clear what my priorities were. It was a bit hard as well because I was alone and I thought I might need someone in my life, who will help me cope with all the things going on. Even though it is said that Paris is the city of romance, it was quite hard for me to find someone who would appreciate me for who I am.

Now you might want to know the answer at my question in the title, well this is what I also wanted to know at the time, but I have found out a bit later, that’s why I will give you some details in my next article.

Xoxo,

Anastasia.

My life has changed

Hello! I love sharing my experiences with people that want to know the world so this is what I am going to do.

One year ago I won the “Miss Bikini Moldova” contest, so I was selected to represent Moldova in Japan that year for the International pageant that was to follow. I loved being there, getting ready for the contest and making friends from all over the world, mostly models. They were all sociable, beautiful and fun girls. Some of them were talking about some social websites they were crazy about but I wasn’t very trustful about these kind of stuff at that time so I didn’t pay much of attention. Unfortunately for me, another girl was the winner but that didn’t make me feel bitter. It actually made me realize that I have to work harder if I want to do something with my physical qualities and also that there is an entire world waiting for me to explore.

The following week  I came back  in Moldova from Japan and I started to make a list of countries and places I would like to visit and see what happens. I was desperate to go to Milan in Italy, to visit France, Spain and England. I thought these were amongst the best countries in Europe where I would have a chance to work in the fashion industry.

First, I went to Spain and I loved especially the weather there. A girl can get a tan so easily in Spain as the weather is so warm and mostly sunny.I went clubbing and I have made so many friends, mostly guys I would say.Maybe because I love it when guys give me attention and that’s exactly what happened. This was in Ibiza, where I had so much fun, enjoying the pools and the malls during the day and dancing in the moonlight in the night time. In my last days spent in Spain I went to visit the “Sagrada Familia” church because I knew it’s a piece of art and history. I was totally impressed of what I’ve seen there and I hope one day I will go back.

I will tell you more interesting details in the next articles. 🙂

Xoxo until next time,

Anastasia.

 

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Yuusk tips: what NOT to say in a first online dating message (part 1)

When it comes on online dating, I’m rooting for the dudes. I would prefer to see them do well than do poorly… and yet so many stick their feet in their mouths with their first message to a promising target.

I would not have thought this to be the case- one of the benefits of online dating is that guys have the time, anonymity, and resources to be suave… or at least to test out various tactics to discover (and use) only the most effective ones. But after making my own happy little profile on Yuusk and watching the messages slide in, I have to say… I’m somewhat dismayed.

Guys, you deserve some action. Really, you do. So let’s go over what NOT to say when reaching out to all those lovely ladies. I’ll provide real examples, of course (with proper protections of anonymity applied). Even if you know better than to make these mistakes, you might find them funny.

…. but first, full disclosure time! I am not here to offer relationship advice. I do not date, nor did I join Yuusk looking to date.

I make it very clear on my Yuusk profile that I’m only on the site to check out the UI, which is fantastic, by the way. So folks who message me may not be the brightest Yuusk bouncing about…. but I still reckon these are common mistakes.

Same comments about images / appearance

Men, I think, have been conditioned to believe that they can never go wrong when complimenting a woman. This is not always the case, but I’ll go out on a limb and say that offline, such compliments in the pursuit of boy-girl relations are a safe way to go.

Online, things are different. It’s pretty much a given that nobody is going to contact you unless they’re cool with the image(s) you uploaded. So compliments on images are pretty much pointless. They might also come across as a bit creepy. But maybe that’s just me.

Some examples:

Hi there. I like ur pics, it looks like u have a lot of fun”

As most photos people upload are of people looking like they have a lot of fun, this could easily be a generic message (more on those in a bit, but in short, generic messages are not the way to go).

Hi, You look great! How’s it going?”

Another very generic message. If you’d like to compliment another user on her appearance, I recommend explaining why. Before it was flagged and moderated, for example, my Yuusk profile image had me in a full body goose suit. Perhaps this bachelor could have explained why I looked great in my giant goose costume.

Form messages

I understand that it takes time and effort to send lots of messages to lots of people on Yuusk, which would be my approach if I were looking for action. It helps to cast a wide net, right?

That said, sending form messages is not the way to go. We live in an age of spam and unwanted form emails. We can spot them a mile away.

Here’s an example:

I’m *****. 25, 6’5″, brown hair, green eyes, fit. live in the ******** in sf. I’m vegan, like to meditate, go to a lot of shows, read a lot. I like surrealist art, I make films, currently editing my psychedelic ********** feature. Can you touch your nose with your tongue? You’re cute and seem cool. We should chill. What’s your week usually like? Can I txt you?”

******” here is a catch, to be sure, but his message could be sent out to anyone and still work, hence the inner “FORM MESSAGE” warning in any internet savvy gal is going to go off when she reads this. Another mistake here: describing stuff that is already in his profile.

A better approach? Find something in each user’s profile that you could comment about, and make the first message about that. “I see you’re a vegan, too. What made you decide to give up meat?” is a really easy one Shane here could use, for example. Or “I see you loved [insert book/movie/band/show here]. Have you seen/read/listened to/watched [insert similar book/movie/band/show]?”

Gender issues

Ok, so maybe guys on online dating sites have had issues in the past with girls who are not girls saying they’re girls. And I can see how that would be somewhat traumatic. And how easy it would be to mislead people. So sure, some guys on Yuusk are a bit shell shocked, which may explain some of my more favorite messages received:

Hi are we a T girl?” and “OOOOOOO your a guy sorry man I didn’t read into that too well my bad”

In all fairness, I may have said something on my profile to the extent of “So far as you should be concerned, I’m a dude.” Just maybe. But for the sake of thoroughness, I would like to recommend that Yuusk.com users not broach this subject until later in conversations. Not just because it prevents them from initially coming across as paranoid/hilarious, but also because, in all fairness, most transexual women look WAY better than, I would argue, most of the ladies out there. Myself, definitely, included.

We’ve met and we are lovers thanks to Yuusk.com

   My lover Iannis and I met on a dating site (Yuusk – yuusk.com)more than 2 years ago and I wouldn’t have done things any differently. As soon as I stumbled on Iannis’s profile, I instantly thought he was so handsome. I reached out with a witty statement (that took me way too long to write) and he responded right away.

But the best part was that he had not been active on his online profile for over six months and he had signed on that very day to cancel his account! But he saw my message and just happened to decide to message me back. Talk about fate))) Thanks, Yuusk!!

Anastasia.